The confusion about polytheism in Islam

Polytheism has been a great concern over the years and it continues to be a great debate among Muslims and non-Muslims. While polytheism is not an obligation nor a sunnah, more and more men nowadays want to convince others to make multiple marriages ….

We may all agree that the best form of marriage is one wife and one husband who love each other and care for one another. Love is wonderful when it is reciprocal and there is none to come in between…Those who really love each other, share many moments together.  They can travel together, laugh together and sit together and dream together. They are available for each other in times of sicknesses and hardships.

When someone does not feel love for the other, there is something missing…they have to fill that missing part.

Today, there are many interpretations given to the role of women in the muslim society and the obligation of accepting a second or a third wife, subhan Allah. The society has always imposed laws and restrictions upon women and it has never questioned the functions and idleness of men !!! Many women suffer because they feel they are not understood or some are so manipulated by the teachings of their so-called sheikhs that they accept to be manipulated, believing they will enter jannah if they accept all that their husbands impose upon them as decisions!!!

Many Muslim women are forced to comply to their husbands’ decision especially those who do not have parents or no financial means.

Polygamy is not an institution of shariah, but was a custom practised in the society

Below is an article which I have copied

“The trend among Muslims today is either blind traditionalism or outright rejection. The reason that Muslims fall within these two camps is that they have failed to appreciate the reformation of Muhammad (S) in the proper context. The conservative section will be ready to support anything that is found mention in the Quran, without giving proper weight to the context a verse was revealed in, nor the environment God was reforming through his Noble Prophet Muhammad (S). A typical example of this is their consistent chant of phrase ‘Marry women of your choice, two three or four” as an absolute justification of polygamy. When a Muslim raises an attitude of caution in regards to this statement, he is labelled as a person influenced by the liberal society of the West. The Muslim is then assaulted with a series of facts proving how bad a women is treated in the Western society, as if looking at the faults of others justifies the ‘Muslim’ position. On the other side of the spectrum, a Muslim, totally appalled at the culture he is raised in, may end up rejecting the very religion that was ordained by God, arguing that the Almighty could not have revealed injustice. Though he is correct in that God does not decree injustice, he is incorrect in asserting that the culture he is raised in defines Islam. Whatever position a person chooses actually reveals a gross misunderstanding of the Quranic phenomenon. The analysis that follows is a demonstration of why the Quran was so successful in reforming a society, at the same time, it reveals the weaknesses that are apparent in the approaches of the scholars who have never given weight to the Quran ITSELF.


Polygamy is one of the hot topics of debate involving the Muslims. While most scholars use verse 3 of Sura Nisa in order to support polygamy, the actual context of the verse of the Quran is in regards to the treatment of the orphans.

“If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the ORPHANS, Marry WOMEN of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.” (Surah Nisa, verse 3)

Besides this verse being used to justify polygamy, the scholars argue that the women in the above verse, are the orphan girls. The natural conclusion to this argument is that men can marry women whom are minors.

The problem with this argument is that it reveals a serious flaw in the understanding of Islam, even by the learned. When the classical Arabic language is ignored in interpretation and Quranic directives are divorced from their context in favor of TRADITION, the understanding of revelation as a driving force behind the upliftment of society is totally missed.

  1. What is the correct meaning of the verse?

According to classical Arabic, the word used for orphan, ‘yataama’, is NOT GENDER specific. Every time it is mentioned in the Quran, it is used in this specific sense. To argue that the one being referred to, in the context of marriage, is the orphan girls is in fact, not justified at all. Further, the claim of the scholars that identify these ‘nisa’ as the oprhan girls cannot be substantiated from the language point of view.

The word ‘nisa’ is never used in Arabic for a minor and it is always in the context of adult women. In fact, as Moiz Amjad points out, this is further substantiated by verse 6, when it says:

“Keep testing these orphans till the time THAT THEY REACH THE AGE OF MARRIAGE… (Al-Nisaa 4: 6)”

It becomes abundantly clear that if these orphans are marriageable and they constitute women, than the Quran would not have specified the age to which they would be handed back their wealth with the words when “they reach the age of marriage”.

Thus, we have two clues to whom these “Nisa” are. It is obvious that they refer to the adult women, but is the Quran using women in a general or specific sense? The “Nisa” being spoken of are in fact the MOTHERS OF THE OPRHANS whom have lost their fathers. IN FACT, THIS IS PROVEN CONCLUSIVE WHEN ONE CONSULTS THE ARABIC DICTIONARIES. The orphan, according to the classical Arabic, does not refer solely to the one who has lost BOTH parents, but includes the one who has lost ONLY HIS/HER FATHER.

What the Quran is actually saying is that if the Muslim male feels that he may do injustice to the orphan that he has decided to take under his care, than he should consider marrying the mother of the orphan. This would create a deeper attachment to the child by solidifying the relationship emotionally. Also, marrying the mother would further safeguard the interests of the child because she would look out for the best interests of the child.

This is further substantiated by the context which leads us to point 2.

  1. Why would one fear doing injustice to an orphan?

In pre-Islamic times, people would take the ‘responsibility’ of the orphan on their shoulders, because that orphan was to inherit the wealth of his father. They would then usurp this wealth through various means. This is clearly alluded to in the preceding verse of the Quran, when it says in surah Nisa, verse 2:

“To orphans restore their property (When they reach their age), nor substitute (your) worthless things for (their) good ones; and devour not their substance (by mixing it up) with your own. For this is indeed a great sin.”

This verse introduces the whole issue of ‘polygamy’. Further, the next verse after polygamy says:

“And give the women (on marriage) their MEHR as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer.”

One may argue, why does the Quran refer to the MEHR in a case involving the welfare of orphans? The Almighty, in this particular verse, is correcting the notion that may occur in the mind of the man who is marrying the mother of the orphan. One should not think that it is purely a favor the male is doing to the woman by marrying her, that he has to forgo what is her right, i.e. the mehr. He is to enter into marriage with honor and nobility. Thus, we see how radically the Quranic law engenders a psychological transformation in the man, especially in regards to the weak and oppressed in society. In fact, this transformation resulted in the Companions becoming so cautious in how they dealt with orphans that they even refused mixing their food when cooking with the food they were preparing for the orphans, fearing to even take a morsel from these poor souls. The Most Merciful in lieu of this revealed the verse 6 striking a delicate balance in the implementation of justice:

“Make trial of orphans until they reach the age of marriage; if then ye find sound judgment in them, release their property to them; but consume it not wastefully, nor in haste against their growing up. If the guardian is well-off, Let him claim no remuneration, but if he is poor, let him have for himself what is just and reasonable. When ye release their property to them, take witnesses in their presence: But all-sufficient is Allah in taking account.”

The Quran says that what they are doing, i.e. their rigidity that they ahve placed upon themselves though may be noble, they do not need to go to extremes. The orphans are their brothers, and God knows that they are doing what is in the best interest of them. They should treat them as part of the family, and not be so rigorous that it makes it a difficulty. If the people taking care of the orphan is poor, they should not make it so difficult that they do not partake in the property that the orphan stands to inherit. But this partaking of the wealth MUST be just and reasonable. The primary purpose is that they secure the financial future of the orphan. The Quran says that for those that are well-off, they should not take anything as renumeration from the orphan once he has become mature enough to handle his wealth. This is a clear example of how balanced and refined the Quranic law is. It establishes the best for BOTH parties involved.

  1. What is the point of bringing up this verse in the context of the Quranic reformation?

The following linguistical study and contextual analysis of the Quran reveals the actual movement of the Quranic directives. The Almighty was reforming a society to a more just and merciful social order TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION CERTAIN NORMS OF SOCIETY. Islam makes no statement regarding the NATURE of polygamy, nor did it INTRODUCE the custom. The Quran was using an already existing custom to continue its move towards a more just social order. THUS, THE IMPETUS BEHIND THE DIRECTIVE IS PURELY MORAL. As a side note, the Quran clearly hints to the essentially monogamistic nature of the male and female in the creation of Adam and Eve. They were created for each other, and complement each other.

In the same manner the Quran used an already existing custom to move towards a more beneficial social order for the orphans, it did the same thing for slaves. The revelation laid down directives which would lead to the ultimate abolishment of slavery as a whole. It started with directives that would change the ATTITUDE Muslims had towards their fellow human beings. This is why the Prophet (S) forbade the use of “Ghulam” for slaves, and told his followers to start referring to them as “Brothers” and also encouraged the caretakers to share their food and clothing with them.

This ultimately culminated in the Quran giving the right to the slave to come to a contractual agreement with his master to secure his freedom. One should notice also that the Quran does not ignore the economic costs the master had to bare in purchasing and maintaining the slave. The slave and the master need to come up with a mutually agreed upon contract, which in turn would minimize the loss as much as possible.

This Quranic move towards emancipation can be seen to have embedded itself in the Companions when Umar (R), upon hearing of a certain governor in Egypt using his position to protect a kin who abused a normal citizen, got extremely angry proclaiming to the people, “We have not been sent to make free men slaves”. He further punished the governor and his son, who committed the act through lashing.

  1. The importance of casual social relationships in creating a healthy society

When looking at the above, one should also be aware of how important the mutual affinity is with regards to the proper Islamic reformation. When dealing with orphans, the Quran advises the caretakers not to be rigid, and at the same time, establish relations with the orphan as if they are a member of their own family. They do not need to be so stringent as to separate their food from the orphan’s food in fear of being unjust, but they should eat together and enjoy each other’s company. In surah Maun, the Almighty says of those who reject the Day of Judgement, that they refuse to given even MAUN. As Ameen Ahsan Islahi points out, MAUN refers to items of ordinary usage that a neighbor may be borrow, such as utensils. This type of free relationship demonstrates an intimacy between members of society and is a sign of a healthy community.

  1. The formation of law by the State in light of the issue of polygamy

With this in mind, can a society whose principles are found on the Quran and sunnah restrict polygamy? It is often asserted by certain Muslims that by doing it, one would be forbidding what God has allowed. Muslims need to be careful when they attribute certain positions to Islam, when in fact, the Quran may not even support that position.
As shown above, the Quran was actually dealing with the SITUATION OF ORPHANS, not laying down any injunction regarding the NATURE of polygamy.

Polygamy is not an institution of shareeah, but was a custom practiced in the society God revealed the Quran in. With this in mind, it opens up the possibility that the state may in fact restrict polygamy. Whatever decision the state makes should be ina ccordance with the noble and decent norms of society, or what is called ma’ruf in the Quran. If it is not something practiced ALREADY in society, in my opinion, it should be refrained from. Certain things that also need consideration are if it is practiced in society as a means to alleviate injustice, should it be limited only to cases of orphans. In my opinion it would be a clear “no”, because the Quran clearly states what it is for. If a Muslim finds himself in a situation where marrying a woman may alleviate the oppressed and weak in society, and FURTHER, THE LAW OF THE LAND ALLOWS IT, he may use this recourse. But this recourse should be weighed from all the various aspects. Can he find a single man to marry the woman? How would his original wife react to the situation? By adding one wife, will it upset the original family structure? Will the noble efforts of a man trying to alleviating the condition of an oppressed create miserable conditions for another person? In fact, this seems to be hinted in the above verse when it says:

“but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, TO PREVENT YOU FROM DOING INJUSTICE.” (Surah Nisa, verse 3)”




Going to umrah and hajj and sinning

Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Rahman

Subhan Allah we are surely nearing the End Times. The world is full of Muslims wishing to accomplish their Umrah and Hajj but they are not ready to seek knowledge before undertaking such pilgrimage

It is a shocking scene while you reach either the Haram of Madina or Makkah. Despite all facilities for shoes, Muslims are more concerned with keeping their shoes than any act of ibadah.

Shoes is one of the biggest fitnah.

  1. Some come in the masjid walking with their shoes inside the haram, and walking on the carpet and putting their dirty sweaty shoes where people have to prostrate.
  2. They remove their shoes and bring them inside and put them in front of other muslims so that when you prostrate you smell the strong odour and you get sick with dust and dirt
  3. They bring their shoes and they put them anywhere, on the carpet, next to the Quran….
  4. Few people use the facilities of putting their shoes in a plastic and put them in their bags. These are the people who understand they are entering the haram of Makkah and Madinah

Added to shoes problem is the use of the Quran

  1. It is fashion nowadays to use the Quran to reserve seats for friends and families. So, what they do, they take a Quran on the shelves and they put it down on the walking areas. So, musallihs come and they cross the Quran with their feet. This happens often and nobody cares. crossing the Quran with your feet while you wear the Ihram, subhan Allah

2. The Quran is put down while people do their selfie, they simply put the Quran down on the carpet next to their feet

3. They put the Quran on their shoes

4. They put the Quran down and they stand up in front of the Quran to pray

When respect is gone, there is nothing more to say. These same people, Allah knows best, if you go to their house, they remove their shoes before entering their house but when they come to the masjid, they come with dirty shoes where they have sweated a lot in their shoes and which smell horribly and they don’t care if people get sick by breathing this filthy air and strong odour and get some allergies.


  1. People with ihram smoke. They cannot stop smoking and there is no law about it. So, wherever you are, even though you are sick, you have no choice. the strong horrible smell of cigarettes is everywhere, at hotel, on the road, heading to the haram people keep on smoking.

I live in a non-Muslim country where Muslims are a minority yet the law concerning cigarette is a serious one – nobody has the right to smoke in public areas and Mauritius masha Allah is a clean country with pure air. Muslim people from other countries should take example from Mauritius


In sha Allah, may Allah open the eyes and hearts of those who are sincere and through this article, let them learn how to behave properly and responsibly

Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that:-

“…man is a bundle of relations, a knot of roots,
whose flower and fruitage is the world…”

Emerson, from his famous Essay ~ History more fully:-

“In old Rome the public roads beginning at the Forum proceeded north, south, east, west, to the centre of every province of the empire, making each market-town of Persia, Spain, and Britain pervious to the soldiers of the capital: so out of the human heart go, as it were, highways to the heart of every object in nature, to reduce it under the dominion of man. A man is a bundle of relations, a knot of roots, whose flower and fruitage is the world. His faculties refer to natures out of him, and predict the world he is to inhabit, as the fins of the fish foreshow that water exists, or the wings of an eagle in the egg presuppose air. He cannot live without a world.”

How to cure from sihr/magic/sorcery

This is a compilation I have made from comments received on a site. These comments may help you in sha Allah and may Allah reward all those who have commented

important advice

  1. I suffered multiple black magic over last 10 years

    from experience, don’t miss salad, try your best to read at mosque or jama
    any time you feel under attract read Surat fateh nas falek and wily Allah hu ahad, seven times and blow on your self,
    recite any verses of Quran you know in to water and drink as many rims a day as you can after fajar and assar and magrib recite for 1hour what ever you can, but reading Quran is best if can read,

    most important is to carry on and recite what ever you know of Quran whilst sitting walking, what is said above is tough for the one sufferin , I know and any who suffered knows, this is how I thought when effected by sihr,

    not let a junky kafir jinn mess with your body and mind, punish the jinn by reciting when lying, walking, sitting, hurt the jinn like he hurts you, hate the jinn, quran reciting is seriously effective but it’s hard wen your effected by sihr, believe me, if Allah wills the jinn will leave, may 2 weeks maybe 2 months maybe 2 years

    2. To all those who are suffering from sihr I urge you to do HIJAMA for verily it is a cure by the permission of Allah.Do HIJAMA every week for like a month & you will surely see a difference. It weakens the jinn sooo much! I know because I used to be affected.

    Continue with hijama for months, as you know shaytaan runs through the blood of the body. The sihr is already in the blood so removing the blood through hijama will also remove some of the sihr.

    Try sidr in the bath & rub olive oil all over the body every night for a month, as it’s a blessed tree ‘shajaratun mubarakatun’ as Allah swt says in surah nur. And the jinn hate it.

    Ultimately shifaa is from Allah, these tests are to get you closer to Allah swt & salat in Jamaa is important also.

    Never lose hope or give up, all this is a forgiveness & a raising of our ranks. We have so many sins, it may be that we meet our lord sinless due to these trials which we are facing.


  2. Do no take baya with anyone. Especially sheikh nazim as the person posted above. Do no go to anyone who asks for your mother’s name or gives you taweez, these are magicians. Know cure cones only from Allah that no one can cure you apart from him. I recommend listen to lectures on aqeeda. Lectures by abdulla farsi can be found on youtube on imaan.

    Eat 7 ajwa dates or any dates. 7 every morning.

    Mix one – two tablespoon of honey. Good quality honey. Manuka or sidr and mix with ruqia water ( water recited on) drink everyday.
    1-Pray your five daily prayers on time, pray it slowly and try and understand what you are reciting
    2- Music strenghtens the shayateen and Quran weakens them, stay away from music and listen to Quran on a regular basis, especially have it nice and loud in the house covering all rooms.
    3- recite “laa ilaaha il Allah wahdaahu laa shareekala, laa hul mulku walaa hul hamdu wa huwa alaa qulli shay in Qadeer” 100 times a day
    4-recite Quran in water, 7 x al faatiha, 7 X ayatul kursi, 7 X surah’s Ikhlas, 7 X Surah Falaq and 7 X Surah Naas, do three dry spits in it and drink this on a regular basis, use this water to wipe over your body, especially affected areas such as tummy and sometimes where the jinn settles in certain areas in the body which one may feel. Also pour some of this water in a spray bottle and spray around the house if one feels that the house is also affected.
    5-remove any pictures or statues around the house which is of a living object such as humans and animals
    6- Take wudhu before sleeping, cup your right hand over your left do three dry spits and recited 1 x surah ikhlas, falaq and naas and wipe all over your body and repeat this three times. Recite ayatul kursi and the last two ayat of al Baqarah “aamanah rasool” then sleep
    7-play the “ruqyah” cd nice and loud around the house as much as possible if you don’t have a ruqya cd, see the link below or purchase the cds from
    8- Obtain a book titled “fortress of a muslim” in arabic its called “husnil muslim” it is a book with various dua that you should say in your daily life for blessings and protection.
    9- Repent on a daily basis, do lots of dua asking Allah to cure you.
    Put your trust in Allah and inshaAllah you will be cured. Eat healthy and do regular exercise, do lots of good deeds and keep getting closer to Allah through your worship, the closer you are to Allah the better your life will inshaAllah become.
    Go to the link below and download “Treat yourself by yourself against Jinn” and “Treat yourself by yourself against magic” listen to it on a regular basis nice and loud so the recitation reaches all around the house.

How to cure possession [mass]?

This article has been taken from Robert J. Abramson.


Robert J. Abramson has been a student of J.R. Worsley’s and a practitioner of Five Element acupuncture for more than 20 years. He is the codirector of the Five Element Group of New York and has taught and lectured extensively on Five Element acupuncture.

Many people see acupuncture as a physical modality limited to treating physical entities such as pain syndromes. Although this is true, it is a restricted view. Others understand that in addition to treating physical problems, acupuncture is helpful for treating mental problems (e.g. insomnia, anxiety, panic attacks).

Still others are aware that acupuncture has a profound effect on the spirit. In fact, most difficulties we face in the modern era—depression, lack of will to live, lack of joy—have their origin on the spiritual level. Such spiritual maladies ca be –and, in fact, must be—addressed with acupuncture for real healing to occur (oral communication, J.R. Worsley, April 1979).

An overwhelming number of our problems today stem from a weak, deficient, and
uncared-for spirit. Although our culture provides well for physical and mental needs, too often the spirit goes hungry. According to classical Five Element acupuncture as taught by J.R. Worsley, most imbalances arise out of this deficiency. IF left untreated, they can give way to more recognizable disease processes. For true and lasting healing to occur, a practitioner must set free and nourish the patient‘s spirit, thereby allowing it to guide the person back to balance and


A weakened and ineffectual spirit that is not able to guide and give direction to a patient, coupled with powerful external or internal forces, can cause loss of control over the body, mind, and spirit. This loss of control, this transfer of power from the person to this other entity—this taking over—is what Five Element acupuncture calls “possession”. Other healing traditions acknowledge this idea of the patient being taken over by another force while in a weakened state and have different treatments to restore proper order.
The ideas of demons, possession, and loss of free will are an intricate part of many
religions throughout the world. The Catholic church has been quietly encouraging bishops to appoint more exorcists as the millennium approaches. This increased need for exorcism is a consequence of social and cultural dislocation, the erosion of traditional religion, and the rise of sects and cults dealing in spiritism. “Yes, I believe the Devil exists”, noted one priest in a New York Times article last year, “but not in the way he is popularly presented. The evil spirit exists in people‘s hearts; it slips through the mind‘s fault lines. It destroys trust, causes despair, prevents
people from loving, from living a full life. It‘s not a matter of rolling on the ground and crying”.
Other religious traditions contain similar ideas. In Judaism there is the idea of a dybbuk or evil spirit. Isaac Bashevis Singer says of demons: “I don‘t think they can take us over so quickly. When people say to themselves, ‘I‘m not going to make any choice anymore.‘ It is then that the demon is bound to appear”.
The concept of possession and its treatment as taught by J.R. Worsley has become deeply imbedded in the way Five Element acupuncturists conceptualize their patients. The hallmark of possession is that the person is not in control of his or her life—something or someone has assumed an inordinate and overpowering control. One might be possessed by money, a job, sex, a guru figure, a religion, a lover, and even negative thought patterns. Virtually anything can possess people to the point that it takes away their freedom. Of course, patients who present with obsessional thoughts are not all possessed. There is a clear distinction—at times profound and at times subtle—between those patients with obsessional, neurotic, and even psychotic thought and behavioral patterns and those who are possessed from the Five Element point of view.
Regardless of one‘s worldview concerning predestination, we all tend to act as though we are free in body, mind, and spirit to make decisions that affect our lives. However, when patients become possessed they lose that basic ability. Something or someone usurps their power to control their lives. In J.R. Worsley‘s classical Five Element acupuncture, specific needle treatment patterns unleash the 7 Internal Dragons that scour the body and devour the Internal Devils that are responsible for the possession.
When assessing a patient for possession, the practitioner should listen to the patient‘s story as well as how he or she tells it. One must also look into the patient‘s eyes to determine whether a full, complete human being seems to be looking back. The look of someone who is possessed is a vacant and absent stare. It‘s a bit like looking into the eyes of a doll—as though something is missing in the person. That something is a connection to their spirit. The subtle quality of a connection or lack thereof between practitioner and patient, the look in the patient‘s eyes, the patient‘s inability to move forward with his or her life, and the context of the patient‘s
story all can help the practitioner to arrive at a diagnosis and institute proper treatment.
If the patient being treated for possession is not actually possessed, nothing happens. The practitioner does no harm and eliminates possession as a possible cause of the patient‘s problems. The patients in the following case reports were all treated for possession. The needling pattern for these treatments can be found in J.R. Worsley‘s Traditional Chinese Acupuncture. It is important to bear in mind that this treatment must be seen in the context of a Five Element diagnosis and continued treatment on the causative factor Element. Causative factor is a concept specific to the Five Element system and denotes the primary elemental imbalance. Practitioners
who have a strong sense that their patient is possessed can refer the patient to a Five Element practitioner or use another modality to deal with the possession. From a Five Element perspective, however, the possession must be cleared or future treatments will not work and the patient will not be able to move forward with his or her life.

Case 1

Emma, a 41-year-old, extremely high-functioning woman, got involved with a man, fell in love, and was swindled out of a large sum of money. She became obsessed with this man as well as her mistake and could not get them out of her mind. These thoughts dominated her daily life. It was as though she was possessed by her action and could not regain control of her life.

She was referred by a psychotherapist who felt something was needed to break through the obsessive thoughts, allowing the patient to regain control. I treated her for Internal Devils. Her sleep was restored and the obsessive and possessed feelings that ruled her life left her. She was now able to deal with the psychological issues that allowed her to get into such a situation in the first place.
In the following section, Emma‘s therapist describes the background leading up to
Emma‘s referral to my practice:

Emma is an extremely successful single parent. In 1996 her son received a full
scholarship to an Ivy League university and her daughter received a scholarship to a prestigious prep school. Suddenly both children were out of the house and Emma, who hadn’t been on a date in approximately 12 years, began a relationship with a retired baseball player. He was charismatic and playful, but an alcoholic. Emma knew this was not going to develop into a lifelong partnership, but was nevertheless enjoying herself. In spring 1998 Emma’s friend and lover decided to go back to his former girlfriend. Emma had given the man a large sum of money, with which he had absconded. Emma was devastated.
My work with Emma involved helping her to manage and grieve the loss. After a month of treatment, nothing had changed with her. She was suffering from depression and anxiety and was unable to concentrate at work or make herself available to her children when they came home for a visit. I referred her to a psychiatrist and she began taking both Prozac (fluoxetine hydrochloride) and BuSpar (buspirone hydrochloride). Around the same time I began treating her for trauma and posttraumatic stress disorder. The treatment included traditional cognitive, cognitive-behavioral, insight-oriented therapies as well as eye movement desensitization and
reprocessing techniques. After several months of psychiatric and psychological treatment, Emma found no relief from her obsession with her lover or the pain associated with his betrayal of her.
She was not functioning and we spoke about hospitalization. At this point I referred her to Dr. Abramson for acupuncture treatments in the hope of avoiding hospitalization.

After the first session Emma reported that she was thinking more clearly and that she could conceive of the possibility of “getting on with her life”. She arranged outings with friends and understood that she had to break her ties to the family and friends of her former lover. Only one additional acupuncture treatment remained, and within a month following the initial treatment Emma began to
stabilize. During the summer of 1998 she was working effectively at her job. She began to take trips and spent satisfying time with her children. In September she began dating a man she knew when she was a young woman. The relationship appears to be healthy and Emma is reportedly doing will (written
communication, James Halpern, PhD, November 1998).

Case 2

A 35-year-old woman receiving treatments from an acupuncturist had begun to feel poorly over the previous 6 to 8 months before she came to see me. Jane appeared to have an ideal life: she had 3 wonderful children a loving husband, and financial security. She was also intelligent, physically attractive, and generally healthy.
As our interview and physical examination proceeded, however, the sense that something was wrong became increasingly strong. I felt I could not engage this patient and could not find the person behind the façade. Following some gentle questioning, Jane revealed that she had just remodeled parts of her house, noting the experience had been “toxic” and that she felt “poisoned” by it. I thought perhaps that environmental pollutants were making her sick, but with further probing Jane opened up with a flood of tears and emotion.
The builder with whom she had been working closely—a man who had befriended her and became her confidant—was exerting increasing control over her life. Jane had become dependent on him to a very unhealthy degree. She had slowly lost control of her life and was being manipulated by this person. Jane could feel that something was wrong but could not extricate herself from the morass. Finally,
it came to light that the builder was grossly overcharging her and she broke off the relationship. She then had a very disturbing and graphic daydream in which she imagined him as the devil. Since that time Jane had not felt right: her sleep was off, she was lethargic, everything was a great effort, there was no joy in her life, and, as she said, “It was a dark cloud over me.”
The combination of how I perceived Jane and how I perceived her story led me to treat her for possession using the Internal Devils treatment. After the first visit there was a dramatic change. She almost immediately felt a sense of relief and of being back in control. This did not mean that her energy returned immediately or that all of her issues evaporated, but the treatment seemed to allow her to begin
the healing process and to make some sense of what had happened as well as why she felt so poorly.
At this writing I have seen Jane 5 addition times. She is doing well, her joy is back, she is energetic again, and she is present and engaging in conversation.

Case 3

A 40-year-old man with a long-standing history of depression told the story of how his older brother had been very depressed and committed suicide as a teenager. Jeffrey was 18 years old at the time and it became the defining moment in his life. He became depressed himself and was obsessed with the idea that he should have been able to prevent his brother‘s suicide. Of course, this sentiment was
irrational, but it exerted an overwhelming force over the patient. I treated him for Internal Devils, which had a very positive effect. Although the treatment did not magically eliminate Jeffrey‘s depression, it allowed him to focus on his own life and problems and to begin moving forward with his treatment, which involved antidepressants and acupuncture.

These clinical examples illustrate the hallmark of possession—that something or someone is
controlling another person‘s life. Clearing away this kind of possession is a necessary starting point in
Five Element acupuncture. My hope is that these case reports will expand the scope of how we view our
patients and acupuncture in general, giving practitioners another treatment protocol in their clinical
armamentarium. One cannot work effectively with the Elemental causative factor and bring balance and
harmony to a person‘s body, mind, and spirit when that person is being controlled by a foreign influence.
Once cleared, the person can begin to move forward, allowing various treatments that may not have been
successful previously to work the way they were originally intended.

[Alternative Therapies, September 1999, VOL. 5, NO. 5]

Suicide among adolescents

Suicide is taking our own lives before our prescribed death

We decide to take our lives instead of living until death calls upon us

So, for Muslim beliefs, this is a terrible state because suicide is not permissible. It is giving ourselves to the plot of shaytan, subhan Allah. May Allah have mercy upon us and protect us against the plot and waswas of shaytan

It is important to consider how many people are distressed, desperate and hopeless. They can not find a solution to their problems. It is as if they are living in darkness and there are no hands to take them away from their heavy troubles

Many parents [not all, Alhamdulillah] do not converse with their kids. They do not have time or do not care to know what is happening in the lives of their daughters and sons. What seems more interesting nowadays is to buy gadgets that they think may replace valuable moments or eating together at a fast food where everyone is looking at their mobiles.

As you see, human beings are created with emotions. they are full of emotions and if they do not learn how to release these emotions, they become fragile. And many medias such as bollywood films which show that LOVE is the greatest religion, may create many confusions in the child. Love is not a religion and loving should not be idealized to the point that  kids may decide to kill themselves in the name of love.

Parents should train their children and at the same time, should not pressure them or threaten them with all kinds of things so that their fragile mind cannot support anymore and they decide to kill themselves

Yes, there are cases of Muslims who kill themselves because our societies refuse to listen or we stand as judges instead of supporters. People like to have children for decorations but when you walk on the roads, you can see how many people illtreat their babies and young kids. I have once seen a man, like an angry monster slapping his two-three year old son [who just started walking] who was walking around in a restaurant instead of following his parents. The angry bulldog came and slapped the little kid in the head and he fell face down crying but the monster was not at all ashamed!!! Imagine, he did not show any sign of pity towards his own son who was crying. Instead he showed more anger and the wife who was several steps away, rushed in.  she was ashamed by this public scene – things that she is used to at home [may be]. Everybody was watching. so, she said: “You are a savage!” Now imagine how he behaves everyday with his kid at home, imagine how this little boy is going to pass his childhood and adolescent next to such a man!!!!

They were not Muslims but anger, violence has no religion. It happens in the mind and heart of the individual. Anyone can be loving. anyone can be violent.

I saw another situation where a girl of ten, eleven was walking with her parents and she asked for something. the mother just hit her in the face and the girl shyly and powerless, looked down. But you could feel how disappointed she felt, how uncomfortable …but there are many monsters like this who PRETEND they like children but in reality they hate others and they do not know how to love their own children and the society is looking at such things without a word. Yes, without a word because if you try to intervene, they will slap you, insult you and create huge problems for you. You can only make dua for them and pray that they read something and change for the best

Now imagine, do you think that these children will establish good rapport with their parents once they grow old? This is another subject that we will treat separately

Coming to the point of suicide, there are young kids who are desperate in love, where parents decide to refuse their fiance simply because they have dark colored skin, yes, we still have such cases!! Or because the girl has a degree and the boy has  a higher certificate, or the boys is earning a little less than the girl. These are cases of ignorance where parents do not care for the heart of their own kids. It is a shame that Muslims are still forcing their kids to marry old and rich guys. Forcing in Islam is a sin but they do not fear Allah at all. They act as gods and goddesses in their own houses

Children often do not have islamic knowledge because their parents themselves are ignorant and focus on secular knowledge and when they are in trouble, they cannot find any solution

Why do you have to force your daughter to marry someone of your choice? Why do you have to choose a girl for your son? Who gave you that right to decide and impose upon them to the point of losing them forever? Many children are abused by their parents. Abuse is a terrible thing because it gets over your emotion and destroy your life. Some people even take it on religion, saying it is your duty to listen to your mum or dad. Yes, there is a limit to everything. When a child reaches a certain age and feel comfortable to marry, you as a parent, you cannot forbid your child to marry. You can advise. You can discuss but you cannot impose especially if you have no point in disagreeing. don’t build high expectations that reflect only your dreams and not the dreams of your children.

Think how you would feel if you were in his/her position.

Stop abuse. Stop love abuse. stop power abuse. stop parental abuse


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The importance of seeking advice

Often as human  beings we are confronted with many decisions. We don’t always have the right answer. So, instead of taking the wrong decision, we ask people in our circle to help us out.

that’s good. What we need to think about is, whether those people are capable for a good decision. Think about it

The Qur’an addresses Muslims by telling them to consult each other. Consultation is of utmost importance and it is explained in chapter 42:38 [Ash Shuarah]

After having talked to your circle of friends and families, remember that istigharah is most important than anything else.

Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) used to teach us the Istikharah (seeking guidance from Allah) in all matters as he would teach us a Surah of the Qur’an. He used to say:
“When one of you contemplates entering upon an enterprise, let him perform two Rak`ah of optional prayer other than Fard prayers and then supplicate:

اللّهُـمَّ إِنِّـي أَسْتَخيـرُكَ بِعِاْـمِك، وَأسْتَقْـدِرُكَ بِقُـدْرَتِـك، وَأَسْـألُـكَ مِنْ فَضْـلِكَ العَظـيم، فَإِنَّـكَ تَقْـدِرُ وَلا أَقْـدِر، وَتَـعْلَـمُ وَلا أَعْلَـم، وَأَنْـتَ عَلاّمُ الغُـيوب، اللّهُـمَّ إِنْ كُنْـتَ تَعْـلَمُ أَنَّ هـذا الأمْـرَ- وَيُسَـمِّي حاجَتَـه – خَـيْرٌ لي في دينـي وَمَعـاشي وَعاقِـبَةِ أَمْـري، فَاقْـدُرْهُ لي وَيَسِّـرْهُ لي ثـمَّ بارِكْ لي فيـه، وَإِنْ كُنْـتَ تَعْـلَمُ أَنَّ هـذا الأمْـرَ شَـرٌ لي في دينـي وَمَعـاشي وَعاقِـبَةِ أَمْـري، فَاصْرِفَهُ عَنِّي وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْـدُرْ لي الخَـيْرَ حَيْـثُ كانَ ثُـمَّ أَرْضِـني بِـه

(O Allah, I consult You through Your Knowledge, and I seek strength through Your Power, and ask of Your Great Bounty; for You are Capable whereas I am not and, You know and I do not, and You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allah, if You know that this matter (and name it) is good for me in respect of my Deen, my livelihood and the consequences of my affairs, (or he said), the sooner or the later of my affairs then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. But if You know this matter (and name it) to be bad for my Deen, my livelihood or the consequences of my affairs, (or he said) the sooner or the later of my affairs then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it, and grant me power to do good whatever it may be, and cause me to be contented with it). And let the supplicant specify the object.”

[Bukhari & Muslim]
Tag: al istighara, what islam says about decision making, consultation in islam

Mauritius: where to get halal food?

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Many readers have in-boxed me concerning issues of halal

1- Is Mauritius a Muslim country?

No, Muslims are a minority

2. Do we have halal food everywhere in Mauritius?

No, we do not have halal food everywhere

3. Is halal food easy available?

Yes, halal food is easily available in some regions especially in Port-Louis and Phoenix. Alhamdulillah, there are more availabilities in Beau-Bassin, Rose-Hill, Quatre-Bornes and Curepipe 

4. Do all restaurants provide halal food?

No, only Muslim restaurants are 100 % halal. In some other restaurants, they may have a halal certificate. The certificate is annexed openly [those who pretend they have a certificate kept in the drawer or in a room should not be trusted]

Those who write “Halal food – no pork, no alcohol” BUT do not have a certificate may not be halal

5. Can we eat at hotels?

Yes and NO

It is our duty as Muslims to reject any kind of subterfuge – when we are talking about halal food, we mean there is no cross-contamination of halal and haram. Well, in many hotels, the workers have not learnt about halal and haram. They do not know the word ‘halal’. and if you ask them about ‘Muslim food’ they simply show you vegetarian food which are often placed next to pork. Often you see cheese placed next to jam. This is not only confusing but an INSULT !!!

Once you book for a hotel, you have to make a clear request. Hotel managers have to respect you as a client. so, do not be shy to come with your request. Do not accept omelet that are cooked in the same recipient where jam is cooked. You can see this practice in many hotels [worldwide, not only in Mauritius].

6. Are we allowed to eat at the polytheists?

Have a look at surah Maaidah [chapter 5] Allah has given us the PERMISSION to eat at the people of the Book. So, the polytheists do not form part of it. The best thing is to eat food cooked by yourself where you start in the name of Allah and you make dua that this food bring blessing to the whole family. Eating blessed food is important for our health but when you are travelling, it is not easy, so you should opt for a professional hotel who cares about healthy and clean food as well as halal food.

7. How to cook our own food when we are travelling?

You must choose apartments where they provide for kitchen. fresh halal meat and chicken are easily available. Most of our butchers are Muslims

8. Are vegetarians food halal for Muslims?

YES and NO

Vegetarian food is halal when it contains the right ingredients

Vegetarian food may contain alcohol such as wine vinegar in salad sauce. wine is used in many dishes, in dessert such as pancake, crepe etc. In fruit salad. fruit cocktail is famous in Mauritius and they often contain beer to preserve the fruit.

Some communities eat blood curry so you should beware of this.

  • Blood and blood by-products
  • Wine, beer, rhum, liquor
  • Animal
  • Human hair or animal hair
  • Foods contaminated with any of the above products
  • GELATINE  is an odourless, tasteless, protein substance like glue or jelly, obtained by boiling the bones, hoofs, and other waste parts of animals. [some gelatine are veg such as agar agar]
  • COCHINEAL/CARMINE – E120, E122    A red dyestuff consisting of dried bodies of female cochineal insects. [red color in various food]

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Islamic Psychology – the forgotten words

Psychology is often viewed as a modern word – a science recently discovered. yet, if you study Islam, you understand that Islam is a complete set of beliefs and practices and encompasses the limited notion of ‘religion’.

Psychology is a part of Islam. It deals with the emotional and mental struggles of human beings. Emotions are important and often some emotions may interfere with our daily lives and obscure our understanding of things.

It is called the emotional intelligence where one is able to control their emotions intelligently.

Emotions can be devastating. They can pull you down. The society is responsible to raise people with sane attitudes but sadly we notice that Media exposure is responsible for many harms. Watching television especially Bollywood series take away your rationality and create confusion.

Stories based on culture, religion and societal issues that do not reflect justice, peace and true happiness are harmful thus must be discarded. Our minds are framed by what the media tell us everyday. So, in the West people think like this and in Asia people think like that…why?

There are solutions for our problems. first we must be aware that we have a problem…Everything starts with being aware..Image result for flower

Your sister in faith




tag: religion and psychology, psychology in Islam, how to deal with our emotions, how to get rid of negative thoughts, how to start afresh

The addiction of pornography even after marriage

The permissive society wants our youth to be rebellious, to be free concerning evil acts!!! if loving and caring for the youth means to set them free without proper guidance, then it is something else, not love!!!

people are social beings who need are dependent upon others, such some ways or others. Education is a vital element for the survival of human race. if education is endangered or altered in order to fit some strange ideologies, then of course, new generations will always find new ways of enjoying themselves.

Several centuries ago, a simple glance at a well dressed woman, was an excitement for a man. The uncovering of the head was an offence!!! today, both men and women are indecently dressed. There is no such thing as PRIVATE PART. Everything is public.

The industry of film has to be profitable and the victims are the young ones who keep on with the habit until they are old. so, people get married but they do not get rid of their habits. Habits are second nature.

the wife cannot satisfy the strange awkward habit of the husband because the latter’s mind has been manipulated for years.

This is how people end up in divorce or simply end up being unhappy for the rest of their lives, living as slaves of sex

May Allah have mercy on His creatures


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