Why are Muslims facing such big problems nowadays? What is wrong with them, taking marriage as a play?

“Do not make small issues big and do not make big issues small” – Sister Ammaara

The road to happiness is quite long because we need to cure our mind and heart first in order to walk upright. It is dramatic to say that evil seems easier than good deeds.

Whenever you try to join a group of Muslims and try to have some good conversation about Islam, you end up frustrated.

Why? Because the real debate is often over exaggerated or denied. Let’s say for example you are talking about ‘permissible jealousy’ – the protective jealousy called ghayrah in marriage, automatically, both male and female will talk about the permissibility of men marrying up to four women and within minutes, the true debate is over; the debate is now upon four nikkahs. One will say: “Oh jealous? She can’t because the man can marry up to four wives” Another one will say: Jealousy is haram anyway!” Another one will say: “Sharing is good, be generous!” and so on.

It has become a clear obsession but no one seems to realise it!!! Shaytan is playing with us.We don’t care whether ghayrah forms an essential part of our deen. We tend to neglect that many families are broken because they do not protect their mates. Many strange men have indecent attitude towards their female secretaries, maids, colleagues and women at large. They do not realise that their attitude is blameworthy.

Of course, with such an attitude even four wives may not be enough!!! Muslims have become greedy in many things, even in the number of times they marry. Marrying for the sake of Allah is just a mere excuse!!! Often, the reason belying their decision is greediness. and many women nowadays like to seduce married men, not simply because it is allowed, just to prove to themselves that ‘they can do it”. it is a challenge. But playing with such important issues can have grave consequences!!! Many couples are broken within weeks when the charms of the early days have gone, what is left is nothing but delusion!!!! unnecessary heart pain, hatred, frustration….

Many couples after having satisfied their greed, realise [too late] that they were not in love at all! the so-called love was just an illusion. Now they want to divorce and their frustration is so high that they want other couples to be frustrated too. So, they decide to break the marriages of their brothers and sisters in Islam.

We must understand that we are living in the Age of the End Times, people have become crazy. They cannot be trusted easily. Today they tell you one thing, tomorrow they tell you another thing. Today they are in love with you but tomorrow you find out that they were in love with your purse!!!

On the other side, the biggest fitna for men is certainly women!! Many men become crazy when a women walk in front of them. Any interaction is an excuse for looseness, indecent talks. Both men and women stand up on the same level of fitnah. They want fitnah. They want to enjoy life. They don’t care about future consequences. They just want to live and enjoy!!!

They want to act as actors and actresses in films. Actors and actresses who do selfies and who wake up in the morning with an inexplicable loneliness and a soul which cries every second because it is starving!!!

No recition of the Qur’an, no salah, no fasting, no sadaqa, no fruitful conversation, no reflection, no meditation, no silence, no islamic tuition, except greed, greed, greed!!!!

Parents want children because they believe that they will stand up proudly on the day of judgment with all their children in front of them. But do they care to take those children to the madrassas and to islamic lessons? Do fathers and mothers accompany their children to islamic lessons?

Do men who say they can handle four wives, accompany their four wives to islamic lessons? check their salah whether they are performing salah correctly or whether they are neglectful in prayers? Do husbands check and reprimand their wives if the latter are not giving sadaqa and are not doing dawah?

Yes, we do make small issues big and big issues small!!!!

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