A marriage life of regrets and sorrow – why?

“MY WIFE, I AM SORRY”- this story can help you understand how your lack of experience, your dependence can lead you…

He woke up in the morning and found her praying. He heard her praying for him.He stared at her. It has been a long time since he has seen her praying…..

For the past few months, they have been arguing. Last night, they had a nasty fight.He went to the kitchen in a hurry to prepare himself breakfast.

These past days, she hasn’t been cooking for him. Shock on him. He found breakfast already set at the table. He ate. He went back to the bedroom, to prepare for a shower. She left the shower. “Good morning. Have a blessed day” she said as she entered the bedroom and he left for the bathroom. After his shower, all dressed up for work; he found his wife at the kitchen, eating breakfast in peace. She was looking at some funny videos on her phone and giggling. He looked at her then walked out the door. The last look he had of her before he left was of her at peace.

That last look disturbed him. This is not how she should be. This is not how she has been. He has been hurting her, she has recently found out that he has been flirting with other women, he has cheated once and used money meant for their family on other women. She should be angry. Her peaceful demeanor disturbed him.

Evening came. He went home and met his peaceful wife again. She was cooking and laughing with their children. She had come from work two hours ago.The dinner was enjoyable. Good food, she having warm conversations with the children. He as the father felt left out. His wife and children seemed to be having fun despite him hurting them.

After dinner, as she washed the dishes and the children had gone to bed. He approached her.
“Are you OK?” he asked her.
“I am more than OK. I am blessed “She answered.
“Are you not mad at me? After all that I am doing and have done wrong?” he asked.

She placed the washed plate in the rack then looked at him and said, “I asked myself, what is the most important relationship in my
life? The one I have with you or the one with Allah?

And I realized it is the one with Allah.
I live for Allah, not for you. Marrying you was a blessing but it is not all there is in life. Alhamdulillah Allah has blessed me with life and I will not waste it crying because of the hurt you cause me to feel”
She picked up a dirty glass and began washing it. “I realized I had given you too much power… Yes, you are my husband, the closest human being in my life and the human being I love the most; but you are not Allah. You have failed me but Allah never fails me. I will not let you ruin my joy, my peace and my progress. You break our marriage if you want to, but I will hold on to Allah. And as I hold on to Allah, I will be full of joy despite what you do” She said rinsing the glass.

She looked at him and continued, “When you hurt me and disrespected me, I realized I was acting out like a woman who has nothing no goal in life. I got mad and hurled insults, I wanted to revenge and I allowed you to mess me day after day. My performance at work went down, I talked less to our children, I became bitter to the children, I felt sorry for myself, I developed ulcers. And then I realized, I have Allah, I shouldn’t act like someone with no relationship with Allah. Why should I be hopeless yet Allah is with me? I had focused so much on you that I forgot about Allah. When you found me, I used to do a lot of dhikr of Allah. We dated and got married and I let everything be about you because I wanted to make our marriage work. Our marriage became the idol and i was filled with pride instead of thanking for a blessed married life … . Our marriage is failing apart because of you but my relationship with Allah is still intact”

She scrubbed the pot.
“You have chosen to abandon our marriage but that doesn’t mean my whole world has collapsed. I will still continue being a good mother to our children. They will never say the problems between mom and dad, made mom a monster. You do as you please with other women, I will raise our children.”
She looked at him and told him, “Do I hate you? No, it will be a lie to say I hate you. You are the man I married, the one I vowed to, the one I love”
Tears fell down her cheeks. She wiped them. “I can’t just cancel all the years we have been together. The Quran asks us to love our enemies. If I am able to love my enemies, surely I can still love you despite all you have done. I am angry and disappointed, but I have taken my power back. I live for Allah who has exceedingly blessed me, not for you and the pain you cause”

She wiped her wet hands, took the apron from her body and told him, “In my peace, I am planning on where the children and
I will move to. If you don’t need us we will not make your life uncomfortable by forcing you to live with us. You need to be able to bring the woman you are cheating with to your own house. I am working on something. I came into this house in peace and I will leave it in peace. You will not kill my smile and shine”

She walked to the bedroom. Minutes later. He followed her to the bedroom. He found her peacefully asleep.He nudged her. He woke her up and said,
“Please don’t go, don’t move out. I will hurt you no more, I will cheat no more. I am not OK. I want the peace you have. I want to be the kind of husband you are as a wife.”

Since that day, he has been a reformed man. No more affairs, no
more hurting her, no flirting with other women, or endless fights. She didn’t move out. She and the children stayed. He submitted to Allah and learned how to be a good husband 🙂

Dhirk of Allah is powerful enough to humble the most proud ……. Allah says: “In the rememberence of Allah hearts do find rest”

Allah says: “Remember me so that I will remember you” &
“Be great full to me so that I will give you more”

I don’t know what you are experiencing this morning … always remember nothing is impossible to Allah… cry out to him… Thank him for the blessings he has given you and behold, In shaa Allah Allah is going to rain everlasting peace and freedom upon your life

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Are you interested to be a Muslim?

Dawah in Mauritius

Islam is NOT a sect. It does not belong to a specific category or group of individuals.

Islam is universal because it is a way of life. Islam has been designed by a universal creator for all human beings

There is no distinction of race, gender, skin colour, weight, country

of origin

this is the uniqueness of Islam. It is free from all injustices and free from all biases

Well, since now, you have only heard what the media told you about islam. Isn’t it?

Or you have heard some fanatics discuss about islam?

Or you have heard a few things about islam which you don’t fully understand or have doubts upon some issues?

Well, if you say you are intelligent, wise and just, please take time to ask before you criticise

It is unjust to make quick judgement about people

May God the Almighty open our hearts towards justice, fairness, love and affection for all our fellow brothers and sisters in the world.

And remember, we are all from Adam and Eve

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Let us try to ask ourselves some important questions?

1. Who created us?

2. why have we been created?

3. What is the purpose of this life?

4. Why do we have to die?

5. What happen to us when we die?

6. Where do our loved ones go when their souls leave their bodies?

7. Do I have a chance to meet my dead loved ones one day?

8. Who can explain to me why some people are good and others are bad?

9. What is the difference between destiny and reincarnation? Why do muslims reject reincarnation?

10. Is Jesus God? or, do you think because he did not have a father….?

11. Why do muslims call God, Allah?

12. Is there a life after death?

13. I am miserable and unhappy. is there a chance for me to hope for a better life?

14. Islam means peace and submission to one God. so, doesn’t Islam shun all fanatical and bias principles?

15. Why do we insist upon an invisible God without any images whatsoever? Who can pretend to have seen God?

16. why are pictures of living things not allowed in the house?

17. Do you know what are the things that you do which prevent angels from coming in your house?

18. If angels do not visit your house, will you feel peace in your house?

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If you think you can answer all these questions, then your knowledge about this life is meaningful.

“Remember, we are all seekers of truth but we need to have enough courage to accept

the truth after having found it.”  – Ammaara-Uddeen

 

 

Brotherhood is Islam can be felt in this blessed month of Ramadan when the wife of the turkish government visited Burma

So moving Subhan Allah. May Allah put mercy in the heart of every muslim in the whole world towards one another.

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Turkish Prime Minister Erdogan’s wife and a Myanmar refugee woman hug each other, crying

She is in myanmar to raise awareness of the plight of Muslims in Myanmar
To deliver aid to the province of Arakan, where a massacre of Rohingya Muslims is being carried out by BUDHISTS

 

Heart moving!!!

May Allah help the muslims of Burma. Ameen

Reading the Qur’an is a mercy from Allah

We must always remember the first verses revealed to us. Allah communicated with Muhammad [pbuh] through Archangel Jibreel through these words:

“Read [O Muhammad!] in the name of your Lord who created. (96.1) He created man from a clot. (96.2) Read, and your Lord is the Most Honorable (96.3) who taught with the pen, (96.4) taught man what he did not know. “(96.5)

All Muslims should be proud about these injunctions and they should love reading the Qur’an in order to enhance their quality of life.Indeed, the Qur’an is a source of positive energy that nourishes the heart, soul and mind. Reading the Qur’an has only positive effects. As Muslims, we need to read the Qur’an with understanding and always try to put into practice its message.

 

knowledge is of primary importance. Without knowledge, your actions will be devoid of any base. Your actions have a direct consequence on your life. If you do a good action, you will have a positive outcome and if you do a bad action, you will have to face its negative consequences.

Your attention please: How can you say you are a Muslim if you do not know what is written in the Qur’an?

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Can non muslims who revert to Islam be called muslims?

This is a big issue and confusion in the mind of many Muslims living in Mauritius

They often ask me: can a Muslim woman marry a non Muslim?” When i say “No”. they would add: But if he has embraced Islam?”

So, it is clear that many Muslims cannot understand that once a non believer has embraced islam, he is a muslim.

the moment a person says: I testify that there is no god except Allah and i testify that Muhammad is the last messenger, then this person is a muslim.

Where comes this confusion?

Many often, we see parents who refuse that their sons or daughters marry new muslims. they say they are not muslims. their blood is impure because they are not born muslims.

All these ideas are futile and only ignorant people, who do not have any knowledge about their religion and way of life, can think this way, can divide Muslims and new Muslims.

There are so many evidences in the Noble Qur’an and the Hadith. so, it is high time we stop making a fuss about conversion.

Instead, we must all realise that the percentage of muslims in mauritius is still very low [17-18%] because we are still

doing dawah to muslims and we are not making enough effort to pass on the noble message of islam to others.

It is high time we wake up from this lethargy and understand the severe punishment that awaits us on the Judgment Day if we do not accept our mission as vicegerent on Allah’s earth. We will be condemned if we do not care about others’. if we know the truth of this life, it is our duty to propagate truth to our neighbours, colleagues, friends etc.

Eating briani is only part of our culture but warning people of hellfire is a MUST for all of us.

And once we have brought people to islam, it is our duty to assist them in all their spiritual and social affairs

May this message pass on to each and everyone. May it be a reminder to all of us.

May we insha Allah act upon truth and justice for the sake of Allah alone

Instead of focusing on words : converts, reverts etc. let us unite as MUSLIMS – LET US ACCEPT NEW MUSLIMS AMONG US AS OUR DEAREST BROTHERS AND SISTERS

 

Your sister in Islam

Ammaara

Did you know this about Allah?

It is ALLAH Who puts restfulness into our body, NOT SLEEP.
It is ALLAH Who puts nourishment in our limbs, NOT FOOD.
It is ALLAH Who puts Energy into our living, NOT AIR.
It is ALLAH Who puts Cure into our aches and pains, NOT MEDICINE.
It is ALLAH Who puts Wisdom into our minds, NOT EDUCATION.
It is ALLAH Who puts honor into our reputation, NOT PEOPLE.
Even if we lead unseen lives, we need only ALLAH to have absolutely Everything !!

ALLAH IS THE KING OF UNIVERSE : “THE ONLY LORD TO WORSHIP”

♥ Oh My ALLAH, Forgive Our All Sins ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Give Health To ill People ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Pass us in the INTERVIEW ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Give us PASSIVE result ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH,Don’t broke our HOPES ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Give Us Strength to Do Good Deeds ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Save us From The Shadow of Evil/Shaitan ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH, Help Every Muslims in Troubles ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH,Give Every Muslim to Chance See Your House ♥
♥ Oh My ALLAH,Open The Doors Of Mercy For Us. (Ameen)♥♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Don’t depend too much on anyone in this world
because even your own shadow leaves you
when you are in darkness.”
Depend on Almighty “ALLAH” Alone.

 

 

The bonds of love

He who loves Allah and prays five times a day will surely get His Divine protection,
and he who is protected by God cannot be harmed by anyone ♦♦♦

The process of loving our creator : Allah

No matter who you are, in which society or family you have been raised….

This is not fundamental. what you should ask yourself is:

Who created me? because whatever exists in this universe has not come by coincidence [haphazardly].

You have a chair, a table, a kitchen…did they come naturally or somebody made them? You wear clothes everyday and you eat, do they come naturally to you or did someone sew them and cook your food for you? You know mathematics, physics, geography. Did this knowledge come naturally? or did you cultivate them and learn them or experience them? the same applies about your creation.

Ask yourself how and why were you born? then things will surely become clearer in your mind. You are here because you serve as a purpose. You are here to evaluate your capacity to be sincere towards your creator: Allah

You are here to serve the one who gave you life: Allah

You are here to test your aptitude, to differentiate between good and bad

Know that Allah is ever watching….

You are here because you have a mission to accomplish: make the world submit to the natural process of Al-Islam

You are here because you asked for it: remember your alliance with Allah some 50,000 years before the creation of this material word [see chp 7 v 172 of the Quran]

Why can’t you love Allah, the Supreme, He who created you and provide everything for you…ask yourself the question

Just do not say you love, because loving implies obedience, effort, constant effort, perseverance….

Do you accept this process …i mean until death seizes us?

Sister Ammaara

A fresh note on Eid ul Adha [Bakrid] 1430

This voice is that of Zain Bikha

Sisters and brothers, i wish you all a sincere and pious Eid ul Adha

May Almighty Allah strengthen our faith and help us to overcome our weaknesses that are barriers for our own imaan

Let us reconcile ourselves with the principles of our Deen

I wish you all the best

Remember: the best is what Allah loves most

“By the time, verily man is in loss. Except those who believe and do righteous good deeds and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience.” (Al-‘Asr)

Ammaara

 

 

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