Why your mother is important to you?

Allah mentions many times the importance of parents in the Qur’an through stories of the prophets. Mothers have more duties towards children because they bear their children in their womb for nine months.

During these nine months, they bear their babies, they feed them, they feel them and when the time of delivery comes, they suffer a lot…..

 

A cesarean delivery is a surgical procedure in which a fetus is delivered through an incision in the mother’s abdomen and uterus. This is so scientific.In a plain language it means where a woman’s abdomen is cut with knife due to her inability to deliver vaginally. This and more are the reasons why we should not joke with our mothers. Women suffer alot, not to talk about the sleepless night she spends because of you. The suffering is numerous. I will urge you all to put a smile always on your mothers face, give them all they want, talk to them nicely and be patience with them.Infact without your mothers blessings you will never go anywhere in life here and hereafter.May Allah bless our mothers and elongate their lives in His obedience. May He give them the best of this life and the next.May He grant us the ability to be righteous to them more than just once a year. Let us take a moment to appreciate our mothers by mentioning why we love them. 

 

 

 

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An impotent man – verdict

I am sharing an important issue as an eye opener for men and women

What to do in case a woman is infertile or a man is infertile [low motility?

Very often, Muslims themselves have created chaos and confusion in the society by mixing culture, traditions of their respective countries to Islam

They have encouraged men to divorce their wives or to seek another wife in case a woman could not conceive of a baby. Can you imagine the threat this causes upon the psychology of a woman, when you reject her, when you debase her, when she needs you and you take her as an object?

Isn’t Allah full of compassion, love and mercy for you? Has not the prophet [peace and blessings be upon you] showed you how to live respectfully and lovingly towards your wife?

“Well, have you considered the fact that you, as a man, you cannot have children and your wife nags you, hurts your feelings everyday and hates you or leaves you and goes to another man? Think about it a hundred times over before you criticize women”

 

Well, I will not be able to provide the whole man’s question: in brief he says that he tested his semen and it had no motality.

Answer from [http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=showfatwa&Option=FatwaId&Id=143497]

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

It is not permissible for a wife to describe her husband with a description that displeases him in order to humiliate him and despise him even if this description is real. Indeed, the matter of having children or being sterile is predestined by Allaah and the people have nothing to do with it; Allaah Says (what means): {To Allaah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what He wills. He gives to whom He wills female [children] and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.}[Quran 42:49-50]

Hence, such a treatment from a wife to her husband is contradictory to his rights on her and it is considered as disobedience and misconduct on her part towards him; so the husband has the right to discipline her according to the Sharee’ah as we clarified in Fataawa 85402 and 84120.
It should be noted that a wife should be patient with her husband and help him treat himself (medically) instead of criticizing him for him being infertile. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 88807.

We advise both the husband and wife to do whatever leads to the stability of the family and maintain the spirit of harmony and love between them as these are the most important objectives of marriage.

Allaah Says (what means): {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.} [Quran 30:21]

Also, among the matters that help achieve this objective is that both spouses fulfill the rights of the other. For more benefit on the rights of the spouses towards each other, please refer to Fatwa 85308 and 83157.

Allaah Knows best”

Now the problem lies with a known hadith reported by Abu Daoud, and Muslims are taking a hadith ABOVE THE VERSES OF THE QURAN

Muslims should know that the Quran has full authority over a hadith

Muslims should not take a hadith above Allah’s words

Muslims should know how and in which context to use a hadith

Muslims should not take a recommendation as an act of Fard [obligatory act]

Muslims should not burden women unnecessarily

Muslims should not take it an offence if their wives, daughters cannot have children

Muslim women should not always think that if they do not have children, it is their responsibilities, it may be the husband’s semen do not have any motility

Whenever you  hear a hadith, confront it with the Quran. If it contradicts the Quran, then it is rejected. A hadith must also be taken in its right context

do not frustrate yourself, your family, your son and daughter unnecessarily.

Know that the prophet [peace be upon him] came to spread Tawheed, the unity of Allah and not to burden people

Allah knows best

A tribute for our mums

A Tribute to Mothers

Those of you who still have your mothers with you,

this is something to ponder and to witness as your life unfolds.

Those of you who, no longer have your mothers with you,

this may be something that sparks a memory for you.

Those of you who are mothers, this is something for you to think about as you move

through life with your children.

Those who have no children, this is something to think about when you encounter

children along your life’s path — you know mothering is not relegated to a biological

parent only!!

The young mother set her foot on the path of life.

“Is this the long way?” she asked.

And the guide said: “Yes, and the way is hard.

And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the

beginning.”

But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be

better than these years.

So she played with her children, and gathered flowers for them along the way,

and bathed them in the clear streams; and the sun shone on them, and the young

Mother cried, “Nothing will ever be lovelier than this.”

Then the night came, and the storm, and the path was dark, and the children shook

with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her mantle,

and the children said, “Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can

come.”

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew

weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she said to the children, “A little

patience and we are there.” So the children climbed, and when they reached the top

they said, “Mother, we would not have done it without you.”

And the mother, when she lay down at night looked up at the stars and said, “This is a

better day than the last, for my children have learned fortitude in the face of hardness.

Yesterday I gave them courage. Today, I have given them strength.”

And the next day came strange clouds which darkened the earth, clouds of war and

hate and evil, and the children groped and stumbled, and the mother said: “Look up.

Be Brave, Allah is with us.” And the children realised, and became firm, and it guided

them beyond the darkness. And that night the Mother said, “This is the best day of all,

for I have shown my children the awareness of the Almighty.”

And the days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the mother

grew old and she was little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked

with courage.

And when the way was rough, they lifted her, for she was as light as a feather; and at

last they came to a hill, and beyond they could see that her time had come to return to

her Lord. And mother said: “I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know the

end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk alone, and their children

after them.” And the children said, “You will always be with us, Mother, even when you

have gone to Allah.” And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, her eyes

closed entering the next stage in life’s journey. And they said: “We cannot see her

no-more, but she is with us still. A Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a

living presence.” Your Mother is always with you.

She’s the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street, she’s the smell of bleach in

your freshly laundered socks, she’s the cool hand on your brow when you’re not well.

Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she’s crystallized in every tear drop. She’s

the place you came from, your first home, your best friend, your keeper of your secrets,

always on your side; always to protect you; always to love you. And nothing on earth

can separate you.. Not time, not space…not even death!

To all our mothers. May we never take them for granted.

O Allah, forgive our parents as they looked after us when we were small. Grant them

Jannat al-Firdaus, the Highest stage in Paradise. Give them that which is best in this

world, the best in the hereafter, and Protection from the fire. O Allah, make them

among the residents of Jannah

Ameen

For our mother….a prayer

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Isn’t that weird? A mother can take care of ten of her children at the same time! She cooks, cleans, washes & help them with their studies!

However, ten of her children combined can’t take care of their mother when they are all grown up!

O Allah, we can never repay her the debt! Make us dutiful, respectful and obedient to our mother in a way that pleases you.

~ Sheikh Assim AlHakeem

Believers are friends and those who reject the oneness of God, disobey God

Yea, to those who take for friends unbelievers rather than believers: is it honour they seek among them? Nay,- all honour is with Allah. (Surah An-Nisa, 139)

Already has He sent you Word in the Book, that when ye hear the signs of Allah held in defiance and ridicule, ye are not to sit with them unless they turn to a different theme: if ye did, ye would be like them.For Allah will collect the hypocrites and those who defy faith – all in Hell:- (Surah An-Nisa, 140)

The traits of the hypocrite

When it is said to them: “Come to what Allah hath revealed, and to the Messenger.: Thou seest the Hypocrites avert their faces from thee in disgust. (Surah An-Nisa, 61)

How then, when they are seized by misfortune, because of the deeds which they hands have sent forth? Then their come to thee, swearing by Allah.”We meant no more than good-will and conciliation!” (Surah An-Nisa, 62)

Those men,-(Allah) knows what is in their hearts; so keep clear of them, but admonish them, and speak to them a word to reach their very souls. (Surah An-Nisa, 63)

May Allaah guide us to the truth and keep us firm on the Deen of Islaam

A dedication to my mother

Remember to always love your mother and to understand her when it is time…we may regret it after her death.

My Mother

“I love so much my mother,
She’s always in my heart.
Even though we argue,
We’ll never be apart.

She can tell when I have problems.
She knows when I am down.
She’s always there to cheer me up,
and take away my frowns.

At times when I get mad at her
it’s hard to stay that way.
Only because she makes me laugh
every passing day.

I love my mother with all my heart,
but this she does not know.
Sometimes I want to tell her,
but I’m afraid to let it show.”

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/i-love-you-mother#ixzz3oBu5KIlm
Family Friend Poems

My Loving Mother

by Anonymous

To the one who gave me life
I can give nothing but love
To the star so full of light
to the one sent from up above.

Thank you for the kindness
for everything you do
thank you for the happiness
thanks for seeing me through.

I love you more than anything
I’ll love you to the end
you are my mother first
then my very best friend.

It is unusual what we share
everything I do you know,
every beautiful quality
you have in you, I try to show.

Not often enough do I tell you
how much you mean to me
Not often enough do I show you
how your love set me free

To live forever and always
Is what I wish for you.
A long life ever-lasting
for one so sacred and true

You are my special angel
who I always find comfort in
whether life is in a shambles
whether I lose or whether I win

To the one who gave me life,
I can give nothing but love
to the one who genuinely is,
sent from heaven above

Dedication to my mother for her devotion, love and care

May Allah bless her soul and cheer her with endless love and mercy

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